How Hollywood got dating all wrong!

Dating is not at all how Hollywood makes it out to be. We all grew up dreaming about that one prince charming who will come riding on his white horse and whisk us away to his charming kingdom BUT *reality intrudes* that is not what happens ,at least most of the times.

So we grew up reading all types of romance books, watching Hollywood’s definition of romance and all those cheesy dramas. However when we started to date suddenly it became very clear that we have been fed rubbish all these years. There is no prince charming and neither Knight in shining armor. There are certain expectations that a girl has which however is very painfully broken when she steps into the actual dating world. So here I would try to discuss about those things which are only made by Hollywood and does not apply in real life. Really girls I want you all to grow up knowing the actual reality not the rose colored version; at least you will not be disappointed in the long run.

1. If a guy loves you he will be willing to do anything to be           with you.

That does not happen often; in fact I’ve never seen this happening, ever. Certainly if a guy loves you he will be willing to make small sacrifices and compromises for you and vice versa BUT NO PERSON and I mean none would give up everything for another person. At least the guy never does. If you find someone like that you should know you have found something which is one in a billion. But even then there are certain problems, after a few years most of the times these guys start thinking along the lines of “Why?” and then they start to blame YOU for every small things in life they had to face. Now do you see why that Hollywood fact is BS? Good, I thought so.

     2. A guy will start singing under your window at 3 AM of             night as an apology for being a jerk.

Be honest, would you really like to be woken up from your peaceful slumber at a god forsaken hour by someone screaming loudly outside your window? Even the neighbors would call the police and they will think that you are a crazy person (for associating with another crazy person).

Wouldn’t it be much better if he comes over the next day and you both quietly talk it out without informing the whole city of the dark side of your relationship? You know what would be the best? If he never behaved like a jerk, but we all know that it is a wistful thinking in our part for a guy is bound to behave like one from time to time. And among those it is worth keeping the relation with someone who will recognize his faults and will apologize, believe me the other ones are not even worth knowing much rather keeping a relation.

     3.  A guy will choose you over his best buddies.

A guy will never do that. To them brotherhood is very very important. I’ve seen guys dumping girls because she could not get along with his buddies but I’ve never seen a guy dumping his friends because they could not get along with his girlfriend.

     4. You will get priority over his job, games, sports, etc etc.

You need to understand something, they (guys) functions differently than us. They are different in their thought process too. When we fall in love he becomes our Sun and our everything revolves around him. Like everything. But when a guy falls in love you do not become his sun. They compartmentalize everything in their life so yup you fall under the future-wife/mother-of-my-children/girlfriend/love/romance category which has its own place in their heart but that heart also has compartments such as my career, my buddies, my sports etc, etc. And the way they see it, none of those categories has any connection with another so none overpowers another.

    5.  You true love will sweep you off your feet.

I’ve spoken with a lot of girls and all had this expectation that the guy who is their soulmate will sweep them off their feet the first time they will meet. First you will never be able to meet a person who will do that and if you do know that in your heart that he is a certified playboy or swindler. Second , do you honestly as an independent woman want to be swept off your feet? I think women of my generation rather prefer to stand on hard ground or drive a Ferrari while them being sitting on the driver’s seat while the men sat next to them or walked beside them. Dating is filled with lots of awkward moments and phrases, it is not easy but very rewarding in the long run.

     6.  He will have the physique of Tom Cruise and eyes more 

        blue or green than Indian Ocean or Pacific Ocean 

         respectively.

Let me ask you something first, Are you in need of a life partner or a cover model/actor/body builder?I hope that makes you realize this unrealistic concept.

    7.  I’ll know THE ONE when I meet him.

Really? Please enlighten me how you will do that? You know absolutely nothing about a stranger. He could be an axe murderer for all you know. And the feeling in your gut you butterflies is actually your common sense leaving you for good. Be aware to never listen to them. They are the worst kind of liars. You Are trying to fin d a life-partner here, always use your rational side. You don’t want to end up divorced a few years down the road or god forbid a victim of abuse, do you?

     8. The concept of ‘TRUE LOVE’

What is true love ? is it dinner in one of the most expensive restaurant in new York or sacrificing your one week holiday which you got after 1 year to help tutor your fiance's brother in mathematics? You tell me. Besides, how can love be true or false. It is just love. If you think you were in fake love with a person then you weren’t in love with them at all. It was just your heart playing tricks on you while your brain tried it’s best to warn you off. It is not possible to divide our emotions, whenever it is given it is given in full. When you fall for someone after a very bad breakup does that mean that you weren’t very much in love with the person before? It does not. But you loved that person at that point of your time with your everything but that time ended now you love this person with your everything. Our heart isn’t so small that it can love only one person in one life time. So, really there isn’t anything called ‘true’ or ‘fake’ love. It is just love.

I hope now you will be able to find love much more realistically and won’t be disappointed. Give others a chance, who knows the first date which ended in a disaster maybe the beginning of a beautiful and EVER AFTER love story! Your prince charming maybe just waiting around the corner, only without the looks or physique to go with.